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May 29, 2023

Losing Your Best Friend: Helpful Advice for Grieving a Pet

  • Pet Parenting
  • Losing a Pet
Senior dog looking over blanket

As a fellow pet lover, I understand the profound impact of losing a furry best friend. Recently, I said goodbye to my loyal companion of 16 ½ years, and the depth of my grief surprised me. Coping with this process and finding a way to stay positive amidst the storm of emotions has been my mission.

As pet lovers, we all know when we bring home that new family member that likely as not, their lives will be much shorter than ours, and that eventually we will have to say goodbye. It doesn’t matter why, how or when we say goodbye; it’s never easy and the realization that grieving for a beloved pet can be as difficult as grieving for a human family member is paramount to understand. I want to share with you some insights on grieving and offer advice to help you navigate this difficult journey.

It's OK to Grieve

Never let anyone downplay your grief, not even yourself. It's all too common to hear dismissive comments like, "Just get over it. It's only a dog."

Remember, no one else has the right to dictate your grief or its duration. Each person experiences this process uniquely, and there's no right or wrong way to grieve.
Val C.
Val C.Customer Care Representative

You may find that you grieve differently for different pets, as the bonds we share can vary in strength.

Find an Outlet for Your Emotions

Keeping grief bottled up won't make it disappear. Many people find solace in writing a heartfelt letter or poem to their departed pet. Creating a meaningful memorial, such as a photo collage, planting a tree, or making a donation to a local animal charity in their honor, can aid the healing process and serve as a beautiful tribute.

Express Your Feelings

Acknowledge and express your grief in whatever way feels right to you. Cry, yell, or confide in a sympathetic friend or family member. If you don't have someone close who understands your pain, reach out to support groups, both online and in person, where compassionate individuals can provide comfort and guidance. Remember, seeking professional help is always an option. If your grief impairs your ability to function, consider consulting your family doctor or a mental health therapist to evaluate and address any signs of depression.

Consider Volunteering

Transform your grief into something positive by spending time at a local dog or cat shelter. Offering love and attention to the animals there, cuddling and playing with them, can be incredibly therapeutic. The volunteers at these shelters understand the pain of losing a beloved pet and can provide a nurturing environment. The animals themselves will be grateful for your affection, and you may find unexpected healing in your heart.

Embrace Happy Memories

Replace memories of your pet's illness or their final moments with joyful recollections of the wonderful life you shared together. Focusing on the happiness you experienced will help you overcome the sadness that comes with grief.

Airedale Terrier looking into distance in front of cottage

Be Kind to Yourself

Grief can drain your energy and emotional reserves. Take care of yourself by maintaining a healthy diet, getting ample rest, and staying active. Engaging in activities that release endorphins, like exercise, can significantly improve your mood.

Maintain Routines

If you have other pets, it's crucial to keep their routines intact. They too will experience the loss of their furry companion and sense your grief. By maintaining regular playtimes, exercise sessions, and feeding schedules, you provide stability during this period of adjustment for both them and yourself.

Consider Seniors and Children

When dealing with the loss of a pet, consider the feelings of children and seniors in your family. Explain the reality of the situation to children in an honest yet age-appropriate manner. Seniors, in particular, may experience intense grief, as their pets often become the center of their world as they age. Show empathy and offer patience and understanding as they navigate their emotions.

Moving Forward: When is the Right Time?

Deciding whether to welcome a new pet immediately after the loss is a personal choice. Remember, bringing another furry friend into your life doesn't mean you're replacing or dishonoring the memory of your departed companion. Shelters are filled with wonderful animals eagerly awaiting their forever homes. What better way to honor your beloved pet than by providing another animal in need with a loving home? Sharing your life with another warm, fuzzy body can offer comfort and contribute to your healing process.

Losing a pet to illness, old age, or an accident is an intense emotional experience. I hope the advice above helps you come to terms with your loss.


Val C.

Val C.

Customer Care Representative

Val has been with the Petcurean team since 2005 and in the dog game since 1978, when she got her first Golden Retriever. She’s been active as a breeder, conformation exhibitor, obedience exhibitor, agility and flyball enthusiast, just to name a few.